Who Fills Your Cup?

Rereading some of what I posted reminded me that I never did share one of the biggest lessons that Father has shown me.

We were never meant to have our "cup" filled by others. He alone made us that we would find our complete fulfillment in Him.

Its no wonder as a hurting girl, then grown into a young woman looking to be happy; that a marriage didn't last is it? Man was never meant to fill us, to complete us. It really bothers me when I hear vows that say "you complete me". CHRIST completes us.

We become one with our spouse when we marry, but if we believe that we need a spouse to be complete, then what are we saying about those who are not married? That they are incomplete?

What about the young mom of many babies? I have known many women go into a deep grieving and state of depression over being done having babies. This concerns me, as do they really feel that is all they are here for? or meant to be?

The same is true for men who lose their jobs. I have often watched them slowly go into themselves; as they no longer have anything to do; they feel they are no longer of use or value.

I love marriage, I love the idea of doing life together with someone; with a life partner .. that's what marriage should be. I do worry when people are only okay if they are happily married. Marriage is great, and marriage is hard work - but marriage was never meant to replace God. He alone gives life and worth. Marriage is team work - each giving their part - through God's strength and ability. Marriage is not supposed to be looking to each other for life and acceptance.

When this happens, it is two people sucking life out of each other and looking to each other to determine if they are okay or not. This happens in workplaces and in friendships as well. Trouble came for me when I looked to others and their opinions to determine my worth.

My cup is meant to be filled - but not with the approval of people.
 
Do we need people? Yes, I believe we do. To say we don't need anyone - is to kind of say we have it all together. Christ gives us the body of Christ - our family to fill some needs, to show human kindnesses and love; and to speak into our lives. To say we don't need people is (in my opinion) a cocky way of saying "I have it all together and I know everything".

We as humans are the representation of Christ here on earth. I am thankful for all my family and friends; but I am finally to a point that I do not need them to be complete.

Question for today to leave you with is: What or Who are you looking to for your worth? 


Til Next Time,

Jacqueline